Staying positive

Coping with the emotional affects of your child's hair loss

Shock, sadness, anger, fear and even shame are all emotions that you are likely to face when you first discover that your child has alopecia. You will want to find out everything you can about the condition, what it means for your child and what treatment options are available. This alongside coping with your own emotions can be very exhausting. Make sure that you take time for yourself and look after yourself. 

You have probably already realised that children are very perceptive and they will pick up on how you are feeling, so be honest with them, but remember that doing things that help you to feel better will benefit not only you but also your child.

On the HeadzUp Mates message board you will find many other parents feeling just how you do and you'll realise that you don't have to hide or be ashamed of your feelings. They're completely understandable and normal and talking to other parents will no doubt help you to feel supported. Give it a try. There is a private area where adults can discuss their feelings and experiences without worrying that their son or daughter can read their messages.

The feelings you are experiencing are likely to be shared by every other parent in a similar position in the circumstances.  Parents often have a strong urge to cuddle children when they have a problem and to make them feel better. With this type of condition not only will you feel frustrated that you can't 'make it better' for them, but angry that the medical profession will probably tell you they can't help much either. In quiet moments try to think about how you feel and be assured that you are not alone in feeling like that.

If you feel that you are not coping and would benefit from extra support you can speak to your GP. They should be able to provide you with a referral to a psychologist or a counsellor to enable you to talk about your emotions.


Date: 21 June 2007